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If you lead a busy life then you probably create a large to do list each week. Sometimes this can be overwhelming. The traditional way of dealing with the to do list is to rank the items in order of urgency:
- Low
- Medium
- High
- Urgent
Then you start with the urgent tasks, then high, then medium, until you reach the low priority tasks, by which time your may have reached the end of your working week and have no time left to finish then all. But, hey, they are non urgent, so it doesn’t really matter if they don’t all get done. or is it?
How do you judge whether a task is urgent or not? Generally you look at what would happen if a task is not done. If urgent tasks don’t get done then you think that there will be a big impact on your life, but if low tasks don’t get done then the impact will be less.
How confident are you that you can predict the outcome of things? Read more
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So now it’s nearly Christmas and then we head to the end of the year and the end of the decade. It’s a time to reflect on the year and look forward to the next year.
If you are into self development then you may want to review your progress. How far has your life travelled this year? What are your goals for next year?
Its been a roller coaster of a year for me that started with a house fire at the beginning of January which was a big lesson in letting go, as most of my possessions went up in flames.
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It always surprises me where my readers come from. I use a system called AWstats that tracks this information. Here is the top 10 countries from where readers arrived at this site:
- United States
- China
- India
- Great Britain
- Germany
- Canada
- Indonesia
- Bangladesh
- Australia
- Netherlands
The statistics surprise me. I would never have thought that Bangladesh was interested in self development.
How high is your romance compatibility indicator?
Years ago I lived in London at at time when I did not have much self esteem. This meant that I was shy when meeting girls and consequently spent several years longing for, but not having a girlfriend.
I had in my mind the perfect girlfriend – tall, big breasted, highly intelligent, laughing, smiling, the life and soul of any party. I could not figure out why I could not find someone like that.
Now I am a lot wiser and have a beautiful partner who I am engaged to whom I have known for about a year and a half. She would never had looked at me if she met me when I lived in London. I did not possess the qualities then that she was looking for in a man.
Are you looking for your perfect partner? How do you go about finding him or her?
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Do you want to join the beta testing team for the Positive Self Development Organizer?
The Positve Self Development Organizer is now in the testing stage.
This software will organize and time manage your life.
The modules in this software include: Read more
Some self development teachers stress the need for a positive attitude to life. But maybe mindfulness is a better way.
A friend of mine was walking through the park when he began to have very negative thoughts that told him he was no good and unworthy. He came back from his walk in the park complaining how bad his mind was today.
I told him that his problem was that he took his mind too seriously.
“It’s only thoughts, its only your mind. Don’t take it too seriously,” I said.
He then exploded with anger.
“I have to take it seriously. It is serious. How dare you tell me not to take my mind seriously?”
I decided to leave his company before the situation got too ugly.
I was trying to get my friend to lighten up and get a more positive attitude. To someone in a dark mood just telling them to be more positive and less serious does not work.
So how do you deal with your mind when it is troubling you?
Some stress in life is beneficial, but too much can be dangerous. A relaxation CD can reduce your stress levels.
I live a busy and hectic life. Because of this I have to be able to cope with stress. A certain amount of stress is good for me. It stimulates and challenges me. If I spent my days on a couch watching television all day then I would not live a very fulfilled life.
In order to manage my stress levels I take frequent breaks. I have a good break at lunch and if I do watch television, it is usually at the end of the day when I can completely relax. I also have a dog and go for brisk walks with him. In ways like this I make sure that my stress levels are not too high.
But what happens if you experience long-term prolonged stress? The consequences to your life can be very negative. You may: Read more
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Tomorrow is Valentine’s day when thoughts turn to love. Love is a basic human need and is one of the character strengths in Positive Psychology. This can be the love of your partner, your family members, your friends.
Positive Psychology encourages you to be kind and compassionate.
One web site that is doing just that is agoodcourse.com which is supported by 5000 online shops. You go to the site and download the small aidmaker program and whenever you shop online at such stores as Amazon, the Apple Store, Adobe or Skype, a donation is made to a charity of your choice.
This is what their site says about the scheme:
If two tones of slightly different frequencies are heard in each ear using stereo headphones then a third beating tone will be perceived, as if the two tones mixed naturally, out of the brain. The frequency of the tones must be below about 1,000 to 1,500 hertz for the beating to be heard. The difference between the two frequencies must be small (below about 30 Hz) for the effect to occur; otherwise the two tones will be heard separately and no beat will be perceived.
Binaural beats influence the brain in subtle ways through the entrainment of brainwaves and can be used to produce relaxation and other health benefits. There has been much scientific research that has concluded that Binaural beats do affect the mood in subjects. This has been measured using EEG machines that measures the electrical activity in the brain.
