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The Cure for Misery

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There are a lot of miserable people in this world and there is a vast industry to help them:

An army of therapists
Libraries of self-help books
Self development and motivational speakers
Psychics
Agony aunts
Prozac and other drugs

Anyone can set themselves up as an expert on curing human misery. Most of these people are papering emotional cracks, putting plasters on mental wounds. Few really go into the very nature of the mind and how we get miserable in the first place. They may claim to do this by going back into childhood stuff, your relationship to your parents and your siblings. Of course, if you were regularly beaten by your parents, then you are probably fairly miserable now, so there is some merit in re-visiting childhood trauma.

How far do you want to go back? What caused your father to beat you up? Did his father beat him up? What about his grandparents and his great grand parents. When did this cycle of abuse begin?

Is there any way to discover the cause of misery and then cure your self of this misery?

To go on this mental journey is difficult and sometimes painful. If you have anorexia then go to an NLP practitioner or Cognitive Therapist. They can cure your eating disorder and return you to a normal unhappy person, but without the extreme habit of starving yourself to death.

To get to the root of unhappiness is to get to the root nature of your own mind. How does your mind operate? Thoughts arise and you react to these thoughts. Your reaction could be attraction. You are thinking about someone you love, so are attracted to these thoughts. You then think of something you don’t like, rats perhaps, and you are repelled by these thoughts.

Some things attract you and you call them pleasure and some things repel you and you call them pain. You go towards pleasure and away from pain. Or is it that simple? If misery is pain, then why can’t you seem to go from it. Is there something contained in the misery that attracts you?

If you are a miserable person then this becomes an integral part of your identity. It is an aspect of who you are. You are programmed for survival. Your identity, your sense of self, is the mechanism that tries to ensure your survival. Anything that threatens that identity, appears as if it were threatening your survival. Getting rid of misery is getting rid of part of your self.

You may seek relief from misery through sex, holidays, eating, alcohol – but all these do is provide temporary relief from your misery.

Can you psychologically kill off your self? Can you demolish your identity and then be re-born as a new happy you?

This is possible, but there is no quick fix, no magic sword to do this with.

The first step is to have faith that it is possible to end the suffering in your life. The second step is to find the method, the strategies and skills that you need to become happy. The third step is to have the courage to start this journey.