How Do You Get It All Done?


 

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The mind is disorganised and that’s just the way it works. Brains are not designed to create order in your life. They need some help.

How many of these statements apply to you?

  • You think about something that needs doing, then forgot about it a few minutes later.
  • You put small objects down in the house such as car keys or glasses and cannot find them a few hours later
  • You are introduced to someone and then forget what their name is
  • You say yes to lots of things and find that the day is too short to do them all
  • You are working on your computer and find that you have been surfing the Internet aimlessly for the last two hours
  • You find that you cannot get enough done and find yourself working long hours

If one or more of these statements describes you then you need help in organising your life.

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Can Mindfulness Meditation Help You be Happy?


Mindfulness Meditation Makes You HappyCan mindfulness meditation make you happy?

I have a friend that calls herself spiritual who attends an evangelical Christian church every Sunday. She also does lots of voluntary work in a Christian organization that distributes food to homeless people.

Despite her spiritual practice and her good works, she is not happy.   I also have some Buddhist friends who are miserable.

If you consider yourself to be a spiritual person then ask yourself the following questions:

  • Does your spirituality make you happy?
  • Do you struggle to make sense of life and how you fit into the larger scheme of things?
  • Are you content with where you are, or are you reaching for some spiritual or mystical state that always seems just out of reach?
  • Have you found your purpose in life?

If you answered no to any of the above questions, then your spirituality could be, instead or a source of comfort, a cause of conflict in you.

All this has got me think about spirituality and how genuine spirituality should, at the minimum, make you happy. [Read more…]

Is Your Weight Loss Motivation Going the Wrong Way?


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Is a low fat diet bad for you?

To lose weight requires lots of weight loss motivation. But what if that weight loss diet does not work?

I am recovering from a bout of shingles, a chicken pox related condition that has drained me of energy for the last two weeks and prevented me from posting entries to this blog.

This has been a good time to reflect on my health. I now need to boost my immune system.  One factor in this is nutrition. Conventionally a nutritious diet consists of low fat, lots of carbohydrates and whole grains.

I’ve just finished reading the book:Good Calories, Bad Calories: Fats, Carbs, and the Controversial Science of Diet and Health by Gary Taubes which makes the case for a high fat, low carb diet. Gary argues that the traditional healthy low fat, high carb diet is in fact bad for you. Here’s why…

How Does Stress Affect Health?


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How does stress affect health?

A friend of mine started teacher training full of enthusiasm and ambition. She told me that she wanted to be a school head teacher within 10 years of leaving teacher training college.

A caught up with her two years into her teaching career.

“So are you on track to be a head teacher in eight years time?” I asked.

“You must be joking. I never want to be a head teacher,” she replied.

Two years later she retired from teaching. She had carefully observed a few head teachers and came to the conclusion that their job entailed lots of stress caused by:

  • Disruptive pupils
  • Angry parents
  • Local authority education bosses
  • Government policies that kept changing the rules
  • Long hours catching up with the bureaucratic burden of reports and forms that had to be filled in

My friend left teaching to save her health before she too suffered from stress.

So, how does stress affect health? [Read more…]

A Positive Attitude Doesn’t Work!


This girl is using a plastic yellow blower.

Some self development teachers stress the need for a positive attitude to life.  But maybe mindfulness is a better way.

A friend of mine was walking through the park when he began to have very negative thoughts that told him he was no good and unworthy. He came back from his walk in the park complaining how bad his mind was today.

I told him that his problem was that he took his mind too seriously.

“It’s only thoughts, its only your mind. Don’t take it too seriously,” I said.

He then exploded with anger.

“I have to take it seriously. It is serious. How dare you tell me not to take my mind seriously?”

I decided to leave his company before the situation got too ugly.

I was trying to get my friend to lighten up and get a more positive attitude. To someone in a dark mood just telling them to be more positive and less serious does not work.

So how do you deal with your mind when it is troubling you?

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Is the Pursuit of Perfect How to Find Happiness?



Is the pursuit of perfect how to find happiness?

In a new book, The Pursuit Of Perfect, Ben-Shahar  identifies two ways of living, whose distinct patterns of behavior provide an important key to our understanding of success and self-fulfillment. They are the Perfectionist and the Optimalist, and there’s a little bit of both in you and me . . .

I once worked for a company whoose CEO was a perfectionist. He regarded excellence as not good enough. Perfection was what was expected. This resulted in many projects taking ten times as long as they needed to be as we became bogged down in the minute details in order to create this state of perfection.  I came to the view that the insistence on perfection was holding back the growth of the company.

Employees lived in fear that their work, though excellent, was judged not good enough because it failed the test of perfection.

So what is the difference between an optimalist and a perfectionist and do any of them give a clue on how to find happiness?

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Why Bother to Find Happiness?


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Does the law of attraction work?


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I’ve been reading stuff about the Law of Attraction lately.  The simple version of the law of attraction is: [Read more…]